As a mom living in Dubai, I know how big a leap it is to bring a nanny into your home. You're not just hiring help—you're welcoming someone into your daily life, your personal space, and most importantly, your child’s world. That’s why building a warm, respectful, and honest relationship with your nanny is absolutely key.
In my experience (and after talking to lots of other moms), the families who thrive with their nannies are the ones who treat them not just as employees—but as valued members of their household. Here are five ways we can do exactly that.
1. Set Clear Expectations Early On
From the start, it helps to be open and specific about what you expect—whether it's daily routines, screen time rules, or how you want the dishwasher loaded (yes, it matters!).
Try this:
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Make a simple weekly schedule with key duties and timings.
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Write down house rules (e.g., no phones around kids, bedtime routines).
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Discuss how you’ll handle feedback—both ways.
Clear boundaries early on help prevent future tension and create a smoother partnership.
2. Communicate Often (and Kindly)
We’re all juggling a lot—but taking five minutes at the start or end of the day to check in makes a huge difference. A simple “How was everything today?” or “Anything I can support you with?” shows your nanny that her input matters.
Tips:
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Use a shared WhatsApp or notebook for quick daily updates.
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Share praise often. A “Thank you for handling bedtime solo!” goes a long way.
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Be honest, but choose your words with care—just like we’d want at work.
3. Respect Her Time and Privacy
It can be easy to forget that live-in nannies, especially, need downtime. Just like us, they need rest, personal space, and a life outside their job.
Ways to show respect:
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Stick to agreed working hours.
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Don’t text or call during her day off unless it’s truly urgent.
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Offer a private space if she lives in, and encourage her to personalize it.
When we respect our nanny’s time, she’ll show up even more energized and present.
4. Include Her in Family Moments
While not every nanny wants to join Friday brunch or park outings, many do appreciate being included occasionally—it reminds them they belong.
Ideas:
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Invite her to join family meals once in a while.
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Celebrate her birthday with a small cake or a card from the kids.
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Let the children draw or write little notes for her (“Thank you for the pancakes!” is always a hit in our house).
These little gestures help turn “just a job” into a relationship built on care and trust.
5. Support Her Growth
Many nannies are eager to learn new skills—from first aid and childcare courses to language practice. Supporting her growth shows that you care about her future too.
Try:
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Offering to pay for CPR or safety training.
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Letting her join learning sessions with the kids (reading, crafts, etc.).
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Asking her about her goals and how you can help.
If you're hiring through Find My Nanny, you can even look for nannies who have video CVs so you get a sense of their personality, communication, and childcare approach upfront.
Your nanny plays a huge role in your child’s life and in your daily sanity (can I get an amen?). When we take the time to build a positive, respectful relationship, it creates a safe, stable, and happy environment for everyone—especially our kids.
If you’re still in the process of finding the right nanny, or you want to make a fresh start with someone new, check out FindMyNanny.ae—where families in Dubai can access trusted, verified nanny profiles, video interviews, and even visa support options.
